There are many ways to start a relationship. One of my friends say it depends on what you want. If you want a fancy life, then you should marry a rich man. If your goal is to be loved, then marry a man who loves you even though your life might be ordinary or perhaps far from luxurious.
Do you realize that basically dating apps show us how to find love? Without realizing it, we do the dating apps mechanism to find love in real life. In dating apps we all given the ‘stats’ of people: physical and personality. Swipe right if they are your type, left if they not. Goes both ways in real life, start a conversation or giving a response if they are your type, ignore if they are not. You can understand this by watching pick up line videos on the internet.
The point is, before we step ahead, we filter people based on their physical and personality according to our preferences. Lets call this step 1. You spend more time with your crush and say that he is a kindest people in the world. What you might not realize is, maybe the truly kindest person is someone you completely overlook. Someone who doesnt fit with your type. Someone who doesnt pass the step 1. This works in business too, no matter how beneficial a product has, if the packaging is bad, people wont to read the benefits. First impression is a must.
You keep swiping right on person who passed the step 1 like collecting flowers with bucket. Once you match with someone else, congrats, you two found the perfect flower from many flowers in bucket.
Next step is their behavior, the way they think about themselves, how they handle anger, the way they use money, everything. I can tell that personality and behavior are different. You are a good person, everybody knows it. But you choose to act badly to certain people. Thats behavior. But the truth that you are a good person still exist. Lets call this step 2, behavior. You might match with many person not just one. In this example, let’s say you have three matches. The first two are kind, but the first is better-mannered. Ok then you eliminate the second person. You talk all day to the first and third and now you know that the first person has many insecurity issues. You decide to choose the third even though his manner not that well as the first person. More consideration in love.
All filtering steps are done, happy you cause now you have crush. Here comes the final step, Step 3, compensation. How far that both of you can press down your ego to get best solution. How far can both of you believe each other to get into relationship.
There is a lot of consideration and compensation in love.
As I mention before, there are many ways to find love. Some people might found that accidently and think “she’s the one” all of a sudden. People who think to not search for love, focus on yourself, cause love will coming by itself.
But the fact that many people use dating apps to find love shows us that love can be found. And that is step by step how to get into relationship. Consideration, compensation.